It is fun to verbally spar with my friends and family. I do it all the time. But have you ever said something in jest, only to find out that person did not think it was funny or worse still, they were hurt by what you said? Suddenly, you feel about two inches tall and wish you could take those words back. Once those words escape your lips, they cannot be reeled back in.
You may (or may not) be surprised to know that I have even, on more than one occasion, said things to someone to intentionally hurt them. It was usually in retaliation for something hurtful they said to me, but that does not excuse me or justify my words. Carefully chosen words, even reckless or random words, can be daggers that penetrate another person’s heart and leave them wounded and emotionally scarred. Our words have the power to heal or to destroy.
I would like to believe that, more often than not, I have used my words to soothe or encourage others. Our words should be used to bring life and love to lift each other up and not tear each other down. A few kind words, a warm smile, or a hug could make someone’s bad day a little brighter. And for friends and family, you’ll never overuse “I love you!”
Proverbs 12:18 (TPT) - “Reckless words are like the thrusts of a sword, cutting remarks meant to stab and to hurt. But the words of the wise soothe and heal.”